Soon after birth, Sherry anointed Darren with Frankincense. This essential oil was chosen to promote bonding and strengthen the immune system. Once home I applied Myrrh to Darren's umbilical cord to hasten healing. As I child I recall hearing that the gifts of Frankincense and Myrrh given to Mary by the Magi were probably just sold for needed funds (because oils were such an impractical gift). The oils of the Bible are often misunderstood and dismissed. But I have no doubt that Mary treasured the gifts for their many uses. Perhaps they were used when Jesus scraped his knee as a toddler or when he felt sick?
Another joyous occasion for many new Moms is nursing. But this was not the case for Darren's first feeding. Just like his big brother Daniel, Darren had strong suction abilities that I couldn't handle. By New Year's Eve I was in tears when it came time for Darren to eat. Oh it hurt so bad! Fortunately I had experience with this, so I contacted Dawn Wachter, L.M.T. Craniosacral Therapist and Reflexologist, right away for an appointment to relieve possible tension in Darren's jaw and an appointment for my aches and pains as well. (To find out more about Daniel's feeding issues head over to my blog post from October 2012 - Craniosacral Miracles)
So at just four days old Darren received his first treatment. Dawn discovered that his spine was twisted with tension up into his right shoulder and neck. She worked on him as long as she could but Darren kept spitting up his breakfast and was clearly becoming hungry again. Darren had spit up a lot since birth, which meant I had to feed him more, which meant more pain. I was anxious to notice a difference when I fed him next. But it was another feeding when I bit my lips and held my breath.
Once Darren was finished eating I gingerly laid down for my own treatment. There were few body parts that didn't hurt. There were the obvious aches and pains along with my arms, legs, feet and especially my back. The weight of the baby had been pulling on my back for several months and now it was trying to recover from back labor. Dawn worked on restrictions and tension on my right side, uterus and colon. My chest area into my neck and head were also tight. I felt like Jello at the end of the treatment. Oftentimes after a treatment I feel the need to lay flat on my back when sleeping. (This is so unusual since I always sleep on my side or belly.) As I lay there facing the ceiling my back will hurt yet feel good at the same time as my body realigns back to normal. Two days later I felt significant improvement in my whole body, especially my back.
Before Dawn left that morning she suggested having Daren's mouth checked for possible Tongue Tie. So the waiting game continued over the weekend until I could get an appointment to have his tongue checked and possibly corrected. In the days that followed I noticed a significant difference in Darren's spitting. He went from spitting up most of his meal and needing a new outfit to just some slight spitting that could easily be cleaned. Perhaps his tension wasn't allowing him to keep his food down?
On Monday, Rita Rhodes, founder of Birth Care, confirmed that Darren was in fact Tongue Tied and she preformed a tongue frenectomy. The procedure was painless but my baby boy was not happy about being strapped down for the five minutes that it took to complete.
The next feeding was not without pain, because I was still so sore from the past week, but the procedure did make a difference. Since then I've allowed Darren to feed longer and I've been able to enjoy my newest son a lot more.
Just this past weekend I had the privilege of sipping some hot chocolate with both Mary Ann and Sherry at the Corner Coffee Shop in Intercourse. Mary Ann just felt terrible about missing Darren's birth and had offered to come to my home for the day and help out. But since I was starting to feel better I felt that some conversation with other woman was a greater need than a cleaner house. We chatted for several hours about babies, essential oils and relationships. It was time well spent, time that I will always treasure. Some journeys are meant to be traveled alone - Motherhood is not one of them. I am so thankful for these special women in my life.